Ep 21: For When You Don't Know (Part 2)
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I know, didn't we just do this topic?
YES. And we’re doing this topic again because it’s a biggie. It’s basically the impetus for the entire show. I felt lost, the future seemed unclear and I wanted a way out. Fast. Answers = comfort. But, of course, that’s not how life works.
Answers can’t be forced or rushed. Even if we do everything right—meditate, pray, get up at 5am, workout, check goals off the list—things don’t happen until their time. So meanwhile? We have to sit in the unknown. So the least we can do is try to be a little bit more okay with that.
Don’t worry: Mary Beth LaRue is going to help us.
For the last year, Mary Beth and her husband have been in more unknown than most of us can imagine. In June 2017, they started the process to become foster parents. After a lot of classes and not knowing what kind of child would be their first, they finally got a call in December that a newborn—Baby A—was ready to come live with them.
Just like biological mom & dads, they became parents right then. Like other parents, too, they had no clue what they were doing. But they figured it out as they went.
Unlike most other parents, though, they live every day with the possibility that today could be the day they have to say goodbye.
But they just don’t know. There are very few guarantees or certainties. So what do they do?
I’ll tell you what they don’t do. They don’t close up. They don’t love him any less. If anything, they love Baby A more and more every day, which will make it that much harder if he has to leave.
So, that makes Mary Beth an expert in uncertainty, of sorts. And I asked the expert how she lives with that reality day-to-day, how uncertainty actually can make us more alive, and how we can all handle much more than we think.